Hi Jennifer...If I may give you a tip?
Whatever you do. Don't go. If you do they'll ask you questions, which you will be inclined to answer honestly, and they will DF you because of your honesty and because you won't don't want to go back...
They can't DF you if you're not there, unless they have "absolute proof"and then that has to be confirmed by two or three or by proof by photos or what have you. Think real hard were they would have come up with this. Is it a family member, friend, FB, here...they still have to fucking prove it.
I so regret going to my Judicial Meeting. Same BS, I had faded. My letter didn't say why, so I stupidly go and they say well, (I can't rememvber if they said the sisters name or they said a sister) saw me smoking. They asked me if I had and since I didn't think I needed to lie at that point I said yes, but I'm not smoking now. Then they asked if I was going to stop and I told them, well, I honestly hadn't thought about it. Then they asked if I was going to repent and I told them no because I'm not going to repent because they dragged me in there and tried to muscle me.....I'm going to do it becasue I really feel it in my hart. The keep trying to muscle me, scare my about the big A, read me more scripture, play on guilt and I stood my ground sayig the same thing.....I'm not going to repent because I'm afraid of dying at end.....I should do it because I''m truly sorry. So they said I had by the end of the week to be sorry or they were going to announce my name.
The only reason I regret going and getting DF is because my child is now studing.....and we're very close.....I even mentioned what they would try to do between our relationship.....and sure as shit.....it happened.....but thank goodess my child is no sap and can see a lot of the BS now, though still studying....
I feel for you and hope you can find a calming way out of this BS.